I’m a person on this planet, just like you. We might have a lot in common. Or maybe not. I’m always trying to figure things out. I learn as I go, but don’t we all?

One hard-won lesson is that I need to let things go. And become less attached to things that aren’t right for me. For a long time, I gripped my life very tightly. I lorded over every detail of my life with precision and control.

I was very successful on paper. I was married, had a six-figure job, and lived in a nice house. But, not all was well in Kansas Dorothy.

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I had somehow managed to get caught up in being who I was “supposed to be” instead of who I am; and that led to all sorts of problems.

I had a massive inferiority complex casting a shadow on my life.

I didn’t know how to be myself and I was afraid to do so.

Trying To Fit In Doesn’t Work

When you’re being who you’re “supposed to be” you don’t get a break. The person you create is with you 24/7, whether you’re alone or in a crowd.

Inevitably, you start believing your own BS. And you lose.

Of course, trying to be yourself in a crowd of people being who they are “supposed to be” can be its own nightmare.

That period of my life seems like it was ages ago, but the chaos that happened between then and now still haunts me.

Who am I ? I’m not sure, but the more I practice radical forgiveness and gratitude the closer I seem to get.

Things are better.

Life is cooler.

Maybe you can learn from my disaster.